Your situation does not need to resemble the worst domestic violence movie to be a threat to you and your children. Even if your partner uses power in just one way that makes you feel uncomfortable, controlled or without choices, it is time for things to change. If symptoms are severe, it may be time to make a safety plan. It is hard to decide if you need to leave. When you do decide to leave, you will need a safety plan. The first 72 hours after a partner leaves an abusive relationship are the most dangerous. A little planning can keep you safe.